| Christmas is just around the corner and all I want is an XBOX 360!!......j/k
Just thought that I'd say hi to everyone. I am on the clock tonight in the RA duty station here on campus. For those of you who don't know, I work as an overnight RA in one of the resident communities. Its really not as bad as it sounds...great way to get homework done and the sort.
I was thinking today about sucsess and life long hapiness. I agree that friends and family fill your life with great joy, however...what is a friend? How friendly have we actually been to those we have called FRIENDS? Especially those who we call BEST FRIENDS. One person told me if by the end of your life you can count your true friends on one full hand, then you are an incredibly, incredibly fortunate person. If you can count your true friends with just one finger...you're a minority.
We as growing young adults interprit friendship incorrectly and in my opinion very loosley. We think friendship is something simple and something that can be created and honed. This isn't the case. A friendship is a mutual relationship that endures no force. Like a flower, a true friendship will bud and with time slowly bloom in to a georgeous entity.
We as young adults may not be sure how to actually work a true friendship.
Who is my best friend in the entire world? My grandma. Why? Because she wants what is best for me. She wants to see me grow, no matter what the sacrific may be on her part. We as "friends" spend much time being simply selfish and attempt to please ourselves first and foremost in relationships. We will encourage our friends to make choices based on us, instead of encouraging them to spawn off and do what they NEED to do with their life to be happy and sucsessful.
(this isn't in reference to what needs to happen in a friendship...its what plainly...happens)
We also create illusions for our so called "friends" that "Everything will be alright"....then we simply leave it at that or give a little elaboration. No real thought goes in to these people's problems...just a little so to apease them. Pop icon Cher once said "I can trust my friends. These people force me to examine, encourage me to grow." How many times have you heard yourself say to a friend or friend say to you...."Ok, now lets take this problem one step at a time and come up with a logical solution...Don't worry, we'll get through this together." Probably not often.
Also, what is this with constant anger? Why are we angry? Most importantly, why are we ever angry with those we supposidly care so deeply for? Anger is such a monster, a demon if you will that creates such chaos is our world. Instead of getting upset at a "friend", why not avert and try saying "Ok, no problem...I understand." and maybe if you really do have a problem...suck it up and eat it, instead of fighting. Sometimes people must put themselves out for others...its part of growing in to a mature adult. Famous nurse Elizabeth Kenny once said "He who angers you conquers you."
I also believe friendship should equal respect, something that, in my eyes, has been lost. We as teens of the 21st century are continually making wise cracks, using swear words with every Dick, Tom and Joe, no matter what relation we have to them, etc...Instantly we as (lets face it) immature young adult feel that if someone wrongs or hurts us it is our job to lash back and hurt them just as bad, if not worse. Where did the concept of self control go? Holding ones self back and mentally saying "No, you are a peaceful person..this is not what God wants."
All in all....we want to be friends...we do. Let us begin to use SENSE. We have it....lets use it. There is not a thing wrong with speaking properly and logically. Reflection and clear situational understandings are what we need to embrace. We need to STOP these lashing outs and petty arguments. Push toward adult relationships filled with thought and care.
*shrug*
Okie dokie...back to work.
Happy Thanksgiving to everyone.
Love, Nick
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Hope you all had a great Thanksgiving holiday. Christmas is coming!!! Yeay! *hugs and kisses* to all you guys.